Allison, Zach and Elijah. . . a new Forever Family
For Zach and Allison, adoption seemed like a natural decision. Both Zach’s mom and aunt were adopted, so he knew what a blessing adoption can be for a family and how well it can turn out. Married in October of 2011, Allison and Zach wanted to start a family right away. Adoption was the most viable family planning option for the couple, so they contacted Catholic Charities in May 2012. They had completed their home study and were approved to proceed in October of 2012.
Allison and Zach completed their family profile and letter to the birthmother, which were posted on the agency’s website. A few months later, they got a call from Catholic Charities staff saying that one of the birth moms may be interested in placing her child with them. They met the family, but the birth parents chose another adoptive couple. “That was emotionally grueling,” said Allison, “because we were so excited about the possible placement.”
“Easter came and went, when we received a call from Kami, our case-worker. There was a woman who had just given birth that Saturday. It was 2 days later, on the following Monday, when we heard we were one of the two couples she was considering for adopting her child.”
Zach and Allison met with the birth mom later that week. “After that first meeting, we went home and wrote her another, more personal, just for her letter, letting her know how excited we would be to be able to raise her child,” Allison shared. “We had a second meeting with the birth mom a week after that first face-to-face meeting. That was the longest week of my life… waiting for word back!”
“Immediately after our second meeting with the birth mom, in our follow-up meeting with Kami, we learned we were selected to be Elijah’s new family. We were overwhelmed with emotion,” stated Zach. “Everything was moving so quickly, and we knew that wasn’t always the case for prospective parents. We felt truly blessed and went in to see Elijah for the first time the very next morning.”
Since Elijah was born with drugs in his system, he was in neo-natal care for the first two weeks of his young life. “We knew Elijah may have some residual problems from the early drug exposure, but that didn’t deter us,” said Allison. The couple was able to take him home on Memorial Day, about a month after meeting and caring for him in the NICU. Elijah continued physical therapy sessions at home for six months after that to help loosen up his joints. Today, he is 20 months old and enjoys all kinds of physical activity including playing ball, running laps around the house, swimming, and walks outside. “Elijah is wonderful! He’s happy, always smiling, energetic, says many words, and is doing great both physically and developmentally,” notes Allison.
“Catholic Charities has been unbelievably supportive doing this whole process,” Allison stated. “They really helped us manage the emotional valleys and peaks along the journey.”
“Adoption is a life changing experience, something you don’t fully understand until you actually do it,” said Zach. “Now that I am a dad, I’m enjoying the simple things… watching Elijah grow, learn new words, and experience all that life has to offer at his age.”